4. Moving on to another relationship too quickly. Many people rush into rebound relationships much too soon after a breakup to relief the pain. Unfortunately, many of the rebound relationships can cause even more pain and the consequences can be worse than the previous relationship. Be patient with yourself when you’ve just ended a relationship. It takes time to heal. After a breakup a huge part of you wants the pain to end and disappear overnight. That’s normal but breaking up a relationship is much like having spiritual/emotional surgery. It’s similar to a physical surgery in the hospital where you are given a timeframe before your body is ready for normal activity. The same is true of healing from a breakup. It’s best to date yourself for a while. Analyze what you could have done differently, and spend time nurturing your mind, body, and spirit. Take your time. Don’t rush into a new relationship without doing the self-love and inner work to build yourself up.
5. Bad-mouthing the person who you just broke up with. What you constantly verbalize/speak is what you constantly create. There is power in your words. Bad-mouthing your ex will only escalate the pain and anger. You may be right; he probably was wrong. But if you keep talking about how wrong he was and if you keep saying negative things about him you will magnify the wrong he did in your life. Sometimes you can recreate the same unpleasant treatment by attracting a new relationship with the same negative results. Instead, only use your words to advance your life. What you say will eventually direct your actions, behavior, habits and ultimately your life. If you want to change anything in your life one of the most powerful mind programming strategies is the use of auto-suggestion. Auto-suggestion is another term for speaking affirmations. It is the process of using your words to create change in your behavior.
6. Negative self-talk. Your entire life starts with your thoughts. And your words give life to those thoughts which ultimately creates your life outcomes through your actions and beliefs. You may blame yourself for some of the things that happened in your hostile relationship and that inner blame may cause negative self-talk. As you start speaking life over yourself, you will begin to develop and grow your faith. The more you believe in your words the more your actions will follow that belief. Your life will begin to manifest a new positive reality created by your consistent dedication to becoming a better you.